Ibn al-Qayyim related from al-Jariri:
“I was told of a man from the Children of Israel who had a need that he wanted fulfilled by Allah.So, he engaged in constant worship and then asked Allah for his need. When he did not see that his need was fulfilled, he spent the night blaming himself, saying: “O self! What is wrong with you that is preventing your need from being fulfilled?”
And he spent the night sad and holding himself to account, saying: “By Allah, the problem is not with my Lord. Rather, the problem is with myself,” and he remained in such a state of holding himself responsible until his need was finally taken care of.”
[‘Ighathat al-Lahfan’; 1/77]
Taken from our imprisoned brother Tarek Mehannas benenficial blog:
may Allah hasten his release and reunite him with his beloved family ameen
Six ingredients to remedy a loss/affliction.
” The first is to have a firm trust in Allah.
The second is resigning oneself to the inescapable fact that everything that is decreed will happen and will follow its unalterable course.
The third is that patience has no substitute for the positive effect it has on the afflicted.
The fourth is an unwavering belief in the implications of this phrase ‘Without showing forbearance, what will I accomplish?’
The fifth is to ask myself, ‘Why should I be a willful party to my own destruction?’
The sixth is knowing that from one hour to the next, circumstances are transformed and difficulties vanish.”
Taken from ‘Don’t be sad’ By Shaykh Aidh al-Qarni
Allah is al-Fattah. We need to know al-Fattah when we feel that things are impossible or too difficult because Allah (swt) necessarily invites
you to know Him by this Name in those circumstances. Al-Fattah comes from the 3-letter root f-t-h (ف-ت-ح). Some words are known by their opposites, and the opposite of fath is for something to be closed. Thus fath is to open. Al-Ghazali tells us about al-Fattah, “He is the One by Whose concern everything that is closed is opened.” If I tell you to open the door, it must mean that the door is closed. If it is already open you would probably give me a funny look.
So what does this mean? Allah al-Fattah opens the things that are closed.Those things that seem impossible, those things that you cannot understand how they even work. A door has to be closed in order for someone to open it.
Allah says in the Qur’an:
“Whatever mercy Allah opens for mankind, then none can be holding it back; and whatever He holds back, then none can be sending it forth after Him; And He is The Ever-Mighty, The Ever-Wise” (Qur’an, 35:2)
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If a person misses out on something, one of two scenarios must apply. He may have felt helpless, which is the work of the shaytaan, who prompted him to say “If only”, but there is no benefit in that; rather it is the key to blame.
The second scenario is studying and pondering the divine decree; if something is decreed it could never miss him, and no one could get it before him. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) taught us that which will benefit a person whether he gets what he wanted or not. He forbade us to say “if only” and told us that this opens the door to the shaytaan, because it implies regret for what has passed, grief, sorrow, and blaming the divine decree, and one is sinning thereby. It is the work of the shaytaan. This does not apply only to the words “if only”, rather it applies to the feelings in the heart that accompany it, which are contrary to complete faith and open the door to the shaytaan.